Babies and children are supposed to learn:
*When I need something, others will willingly take care of me.
*I am loved just because I exist.
*My needs are important to other people.
*It is okay to have needs.
When those needs are met, at a core level, inside ourselves, we know:
“I am valued, loved, and important to others.
I know that my existence is important, and that others want to connect with me.”
What happens when something in childhood was not ideal, and we did not come away with those messages?
There is a solution.
The solution begins with understanding. If you were supposed to hear the message:
I am loved, just because I exist
And you did not hear it -- what did you hear instead?
Write that down. Perhaps you will write down statements such as these:
There was never enough time for me.
My mom did not think I was important.
Now -- look carefully at the statement you wrote down. Ask yourself this very important question:
DOES THAT HAVE TO BE TRUE?
No, it does not.
Just realizing that a message we’ve accepted internally as truth does not have to be true is powerful. It gives us hope. It can give us confidence. Now we can find ways to re-solve that message in life.
Our products, classes, and workshops are designed to help you understand your emotions.
You will find principles that help you understand what you need.
You will learn that emotions can be re-solved, re-thought, and re-felt.
Your needs are important.
Your feelings are important.
As you internalize that, you will become confident at the core.