Most people take the Principles of Communication course and expect to improve communication in terms of how they talk with other people. They expect improved relationships, or hope to be able to work with co-workers more effectively, or hope to find a way to set boundaries with a “difficult person” in their lives.
Time and time again, the feedback form tells me that the Number One thing that they gained from the course was increased positive self esteem.
That’s exactly why I teach the course.
We would never, ever, let anyone talk to us constantly, day after day, hour after hour, about all the things we do wrong. We’d never let anyone else tell us constantly, day after day, hour after hour, about all the ways that we have failed.
But we listen to that voice - (and it’s OUR voice) - in our heads.
Don’t do that. Just stop. (Easier said than done, which is why I teach about the Principles.)
One of the seven basic needs that everyone has is the need to celebrate. We celebrate as we look around and notice what is good - and focus less on what is not wanted. We need to appreciate beauty and order in our world. We need to see the good things. We need to recognize joy.
We also need to appreciate ourselves. We can do this, as we understand that everything we do, we do happens in an effort to meet a need that we have. That helps us to think about ourselves in a new light, and it allows us to appreciate what we do to help build our world - even if some of that backfires, or is misguided, or doesn’t work out. Still - we can appreciate ourselves in so many ways.
Take time to celebrate who you are, and how hard you are trying.
We discuss ways to communicate with ourselves in the Principles of Communication course. I invite you to join us. It could just change your inner voice!