Numerous studies have shown that children today are experiencing a great deal of anxiety and stress. What we can’t seem to agree on is exactly what causes that.
Our children may not have time for us to figure out who or what is to blame. So let’s move on.
Regardless of what has happened to create a whole culture of anxious children, we have to deal with how we stop that anxiety for OUR kids. How do we help them learn to be at peace, and feel calm? That’s why I teach emotions, actually. I worry about the kids. I have seen first-hand how much emotions matter. If we don’t understand our emotions, how can we begin to feel calm?
Intuitively we know that simplifying is important. As adults, we try to simplify our lives. A child’s life revolves around play. How can that be simplified?
This is a very interesting article about playing with blocks. Can’t get much more simple than that, can it?
As parents, we can influence our children by how we address certain issues. It’s called “reframing.” What it means is that we show the child how to look differently at a situation, such as helping them see a new, more positive view of themselves, for example.
It’s easy to become discouraged sometimes, and wonder whether or not our efforts as a parent are really making a difference.
So it’s nice to read articles like this one that talk about just what kind of powerful influence parents have on their children.
A Family Motto
What’s that, anyway?
The dictionary definition of motto:
A short sentence or phrase that expresses a rule guiding behavior
One of my favorite bloggers is Sarah Mackenzie. She started a movement that she calls the “Read-aloud Revival.” I love to read, and her book recommendations and blog posts are wonderful.
A blog post that I read this morning is called “How to Enjoy Homeschooling, Just Because We Can.” Now, I homeschool my kids, and the title immediately hooked me. But - this post does not apply only to homeschoolers.
Just DO what I tell you to do! Right now!
What parent hasn’t had that extremely frustrating moment with a child? (If you are one, just don’t tell anyone. You will not be very popular in parenting circles.)
“Just do it!” And, though we may not say it, we are thinking, “Do it this instant!”
Darn. I wish I could say that when we know the principles, we won’t respond in this way anymore. However, that wouldn’t be realistic.
WHO do we see?
The way we view other people is very important in a relationship.
Mother: John, get over here right now and pick up this mess!
John: No, and you can’t make me.
So -- how do you think Mother was viewing John at the moment?
She was obviously seeing him as a nuisance - an annoyance - or a troublemaker.
John was viewing Mother as a person who was trying to force him - kind of a dictator.