Many of my clients who come for craniosacral therapy tell me that they suffer from anxiety. It is a real problem for them. What I notice, interestingly enough, is that most of them have very tense muscles, and their body feels very, very tight.
There is a true principle: Emotions lodge in the body.
Most people take the Principles of Communication course and expect to improve communication in terms of how they talk with other people. They expect improved relationships, or hope to be able to work with co-workers more effectively, or hope to find a way to set boundaries with a “difficult person” in their lives.
Time and time again, the feedback form tells me that the Number One thing that they gained from the course was increased positive self esteem.
That’s exactly why I teach the course.
Somehow, we have come to misunderstand what fear is.
Remember the principle: A feeling PLUS a thought equals an emotion.
F + T = E
Fear is the meaning we assign to a situation as a result of a sensation or feeling.
Noise heard in the middle of the night = waking up with racing heart, and fear.
Being told that you are being laid off from a job = fear based on the belief: We will run out of money and starve.
The question is: How do we deal with fear?
One of my favorite bloggers is Sarah Mackenzie. She started a movement that she calls the “Read-aloud Revival.” I love to read, and her book recommendations and blog posts are wonderful.
A blog post that I read this morning is called “How to Enjoy Homeschooling, Just Because We Can.” Now, I homeschool my kids, and the title immediately hooked me. But - this post does not apply only to homeschoolers.
Last month I had Grandma’s Camp at our house. It was a lot of fun. For several days my grandchildren and I played and did activities together.
I had checked out a movie from the library - geared especially for little children - and we decided to watch it. But - my little five-year-old granddaughter looked at the cover, and said, “It’s too scary for me.” Since it was a very child-friendly movie, I said, “Oh, I think it will be okay.”
This wonderful, precocious, dear-to-my-heart granddaughter said, very earnestly, “It won’t be okay to me.”
We can think of “fear” as a tool. This is a “tool” to help us figure out a response to an immediate threat.
When we’re curious about our fear, we want to understand what the fear means.
As we’re curious, we wonder: What does this experience mean to me? What does it represent? What choices am I making because of this situation? What choices or options do I see because of how I am looking at it? Are there other options or choices? I wonder what would happen if I were to look at the situation with another viewpoint?
Most people today would say that they feel a significant amount of stress all the time. It’s that uncomfortable feeling that says, “There’s no ability to relax.”
Over and over in my private craniosacral therapy practice, I find that people are saying “stress” is their “normal.”
What would it like to NOT feel stress? People don’t know.